Over at YA Confidential, they aim is to help writers create more authentic young adult literature by giving them insight into today’s teens. They have the best real-life interviews with teens to give us readers a deeper understand of what teens think about a broad range of subjects. This helps me tremendously with the current YA novel in the works.
On the plus side, YA Confidential have just started up a Join The Mission campaign, where they encourage bloggers to hold an teen interview on their blog once a month. So, I’m taking up the challenge. My first victim is my 17 year old niece – Sam, who just happens to be wearing a very cool Dr. Seuss shirt, ‘Sam I Am‘.
Let’s kick it off. For simplicity, I’ve given Sam several topics and asked her to just talk about them in general.
They come and they go. Some you click with well, and can easily resort back to a bff lifestyle even after a year long fallout. It’s those that I regret not keeping in touch with, but for whatever reason, we couldn’t, and it always fills me with joy to get to bond with an old friend.
Even I’m surprised at the kind of arguments I have with my friends, and after a few days, things fall back to normal.
This is such a broad subject, at my school I know, bullying can take the form of psychological abuse rather than physical, whereas other high schools in the area have cops called to dispel all-out brawls.
Teachers in certain schools are not exempt from bullying, colorful name calling can be common. Cars are usually vandalized, and students usually take for granted someone trying to help them in life for some reason.
I know this doesn’t happen at my school, not the kind that abuses staff. Student bullying is usually what happens, but it’s important to note the extent of which bullying reaches.
Usually a class clown, who might not be performing as well as others, gets isolated. I cringe to think what would happen to some of the students at my school if they attended certain public schools (not all of which are bad) but on has a reputation for having its smallest year 7 newcomers tied to the fence. I’m not sure how this could happen, but the punishments occur after the incidents, they don’t really prevent them.
Thoughts on a secret crush
Possibly not an easy issue to discuss without resorting to stereotyping, but if there’s one thing I have observed, it is that crushes do NOT consume our thoughts of every waking moment of the day.
For the most part, they are observed. Love is relatively knew to a teenager, I know my friends tend to take a backward approach and simply talk about them non-stop, and what could be. This differs greatly depending on the school though, private, selective and public all have a different majorative approach to these different issues because of their student’s backgrounds.
Birds of a feather as they say, those more intellectually driven have, in my experience, been a little more socially awkward when dealing with romance. Going overboard is not believable.
If in doubt, having a teen to look at something helps because their observations are usually drawn from personal ideas and values, so they’re not necessarily wrong, just different. The only way to be sure is to have some first hand experience.
General run through a normal day
School is always the first thing in mind when I wake up, and going there and looking at the odd girl with make-up (not many at a selective school) indicates that this is not necessarily a collective opinion.
Most of the school day (mine anyway) is spent waiting for recess, then lunch, then home time. The odd favorite class like Ancient History is far more enjoyable, and I find myself putting in honest effort because I enjoy it.
Most of the time, students cruise through classes they’re good at as opposed to solid consistent effort, which is harder than you think to accomplish. There is a huge leap from year 10 to 11, and not everyone handles it well.
Being obsessed with perfectionism, I can see where I put in too much effort for some things, and not enough. Balance between school and home is hard, 6 hours focused learning is never willingly followed by more hours of study at home.
Occasionally, yes, to fulfill some sick, inner desire (or what seems to be) to go an extra mile, and sleep on the blissful feeling of having applied a new level of effort, but this does not continue for very long. It’s just too draining, mentally and physically.
The expectations of the school of course change this, but most teens come home from school and either sit down at the computer, lie on their bed, or head to the cupboard. This is after dumping their school bag first of course.
A big part of most teenagers’ life is procrastination. We look for that magical time of the day, where we “feel” like doing homework, and when it doesn’t turn up, we go to bed. Sooner or later, usually out of necessity, homework is accomplished. I have notice increasingly that senior school is too demanding to simply sit by and wait.
Most embarrassing thing I’ve seen at school
The most embarrassing thing I’ve seen at school was not, believe it or not, someone ripping their pants. In fact, I usually don’t believe other teens when they tell me incidents such as these because they don’t sound real. Surely there are more embarrassing things that have happened then someone seeing your Barbie underwear?
A few months ago for example, a boy slipped on the grassy hill after some rainfall where a large number of my year sat, the impact of his bum sending out a mini quake with his loud thud. He took it in good humor, the laughter was not malicious but rather directed at his mud covered pants and hands. His dramatic flailing arms no doubt added to the amusement.
I also recall one morning assembly when a school rep sneezed on the principal. I saw teachers giggling no matter how much they deny it.
Think outside the box, some people obviously might not want to share these embarrassing incidents, but if you can ask people for examples, you might just find one that suits what you’re looking for.
Sending Sam a huge hug and kisses for sharing with us the life of a teen 🙂